Johannes Willms

July 25, 2017 at 1:01 pm #3164

Hi Michelle, we can talk. send me an E-Mail if the topic is still of your interest.
Johannes
mail@willmscoaching.de

Johannes Willms

February 14, 2016 at 6:00 am #2638

Hey Deb, i am sorry that i cannot offer you a book on that. The ones i admire are in german and have not been translated to english. There has been some “bringing gestalt back to the forefront” movement by Reinhard Fuhr and Martina Grumbler-Fuhr. But if you research the Process of building a Gestalt and the understanding of self actualization and how this is blocked by a fixed gestalt you may see that this understanding is well aligned with what we do in ITC work.

With “giving a voice to it” i want to refer to a process when we try to differentiate for example the inner critique. We explore the meaning. What does that say about you? The client for example cannot see an if … than sentence but he is a failure either way – does not depend on what he is doing. To identify that quality could work with speaking the way that inner voice is talking in his head, the words and the way he pronounces them and the quality he gives, how much cynicism etc. The client is not sure if he has a right to be at all or if he is a failure at all. The client is puzzled, it is 50% of him believe he is a failure and 50% believe he has the right to be the way he is. This could be a situation where i would decide to offer my point of view as a coach and say that from my opinion he has that right like everyone and i cannot see a reason why not – but i can see a reason not to try to believe what these inner voice is saying because usually voices with that quality are not on your side. I am doing that to move the needle to 49 to 51 for the client to decide which side he is on and what he will decide how he is thinking about that.

Is that more clear to understand what i mean?

and i am still thinking about your question how to find out when this really is helping and when it is just better to find another testable assumption ….

Johannes Willms

February 9, 2016 at 6:58 am #2628

Hey Deb, thats a really good question you are asking. I see that there are different qualities of inner critic. Sometime the client has thoughts about himself where it is very hard or impossible to get a distance to. in my simple words i would say the critique has such a destroying quality you should not argue with. It looks like it is not possible to find a rational conversation about – which seems to be needed to test. In Gestalt we called that an “Instanz” in German (instance in engl). So if we would say that there is an “Instanz” with a quality that is so much destroying the person – which is often the case when you do not find a way to argue with it. The Voice or the assumption seems to be so cynical. We found that with dissidentification, to give a voice to it. We learned to handle that to build up your self in a way that if there is a rational way to find out or not: It is your decision if this assumption about yourself is true. The client needs to decide. For this decision it has been helpful if the coach (or gestalt-Consultant in that case) offers her point of view in a true dialog to serve the client in giving a other possible point of view to experiment with that.
So my answer is: it depends, right? and i would say it depends on the quality of the voice of the critique. At least this is the way how i decide if i am more strict. Sure i need to be aware how i am struck by the quality of that voice myself and i need (at least try) to get a look on how this effects the client (at least a little more compared to how it effects me) because i want to find a way to help my client not fight the monsters i am seeing.

These are my thoughts – hope you see something connected to what you where thinking about 🙂

Johannes Willms

October 27, 2015 at 5:04 pm #2392

Hi Beth,

enjoy the learning in your coaching!

Check out the MAW website under ‘press’ or just send your client the link to it. One client of me liked the O’ article. Mostly my clients liked that there is material about the coaching without reading it a lot 🙂 They mostly liked the question about what would be the thing to change to have the biggest impact on my life? How do i need to change myself to achieve that?

Good Luck

Johannes

Johannes Willms

October 27, 2015 at 4:56 pm #2391

Hi David,
thanks for the Kudos!

Great that you do the certification because it is a helpful tool. Hope the course is fine and you are not getting a bad teacher!

I would not say that there is a connection between #1 goal and the LCP because in the Moment the leader gets the debrief they do not have a #1 goal 🙂 But the debrief conversation is a great start to find a #1 goal. And the LCP gives you a good insight where to search for a #1 goal that will help to leverage leadership effectiveness a lot. This is because you can get an idea even of the competing commitment. Just to make sure: the LCP gives you an idea where to search – not the text for the column entry. So to ‘find’ the goal is still at the work of the coaches and the coach in an honest and professional dialog – because we are not finding the goal alone but creating the goal in our conversation.

Just listen during the certification and think about finding the #1 entry in the creative half of the circle and the #3 in the reactive half. Than the profile offers a good start for underlying assumption (the inner circle is the assumption, the outer circle is the behavior) – i bet you will love it!

I will post a webinar in our next newsletter.

Johannes

Johannes Willms

October 27, 2015 at 4:44 pm #2390

Linda,
i heard lots of people liking the Ennegramm and heard several times that it is a useful tool. I am not sure if it is just my aversion against ‘types of people’ or just that it is too complex for me that kept me away from getting it. And i remember even that i read one book about it years ago. Could you explain to me how you connect it to ITC?

Johannes Willms

October 27, 2015 at 4:42 pm #2389

Hey there,
i heard a story that after writing all the books about stage-transformation, which is moving from subject to object, assessing the stages, which is finding out what the person is subject to and what the person is able to have as an object, someone said “Let’s do something about it!” – which led to the ITC approach.
So one could say it is a very direct relation.

Johannes Willms

October 19, 2015 at 7:56 am #2340

The Conference was very interesting – was a pleasure to be a part of that. For anyone interested in the content please write me a direct mail mail@willmscoaching.de and if we get a handful we can make a webinar on that.
Cheers
Johannes

Johannes Willms

October 9, 2015 at 8:42 am #2284

Hi Vic,
i see a great chance in being aware of the body of my client and even more, coming from a gestalt background, how he is getting in contact with me, how he is getting in contact with the world around him, how he is designing the border between his organism and the field around him. If i base my interventions on the process of getting into contact this is very powerful. And at the same time it is dangerous. This is something which i would see connected with what you say. With the idea to build optimal conflict i need to search for something the client can get ‘grip on’. So how would you use the body piece in the coaching and take care of not to dig to deep into the unconsciousness of the client and getting towards something he is not able to hold himself?

Johannes Willms

October 9, 2015 at 8:32 am #2283

My pleasure!

Communication Training in this sense becomes the ‘first steps to walk with the new mindset’ and get a feeling how this could look like, what are the possible steps to take. Than you walk with the technics you learned from your trainer. If you have learned to be in that territory you do not need the technique anymore.

Maybe i get the opportunity to spy your workshops a day 😉

All the best

Johannes

Johannes Willms

October 8, 2015 at 9:19 am #2281

The Link to the conference:
http://www.ila-net.org/Conferences/2015/index.htm

To get in contact write an email: mail@willmscoaching.de

Johannes Willms

October 8, 2015 at 9:13 am #2279

Hey Maria, so nice to read your post and no doubt i believe that i would have benefitted from the workshops you have offered. Next time i will be a small mouse and take a look 😉
I agree with what you say. And i ask myself – and now you – why you call it a ‘toolkit’ to work on communication skills? Can you do a tool-training with your developmental background in your mind? Isn`t it a practical way to facilitate the mindset-shift – to be realized in the world – because in communication the adaptive challenge and the technical way of saying it is so closely linked together? It is hard to do a communication training without the adaptive change in mind – even if i know a lot of trainers do – but i guess you cannot do it. Communication is like the main road for personal development. The Link between behavior and Intention is so close to experience. The way we talk builds our relationships. In communication with the other person “it is all there”. So it makes perfect sense that communication training with a developmental background and ITC Coaching works together well. I would think that the outcome of ITC coaching is much more related to the communication between coach and client than to ‘filling out the forms of the exercises’ – much more than we would like to have it 😉

Johannes Willms

June 18, 2015 at 12:23 pm #1964

Thanks Rebecca for sharing. I would love to exchange more ideas on transition coaching because we have set up a ‘program’ on that too. Sounds like you do maily an ITC arc?

Johannes Willms

June 18, 2015 at 12:21 pm #1963

Hey Deb, thats Fantastic!

Johannes Willms

May 5, 2015 at 10:42 am #1868

Hi Deb,
i am not sure if the cynical quality is self protecting. This is why i suggest to deal with it differently. If it is self-protecting it can tell you something about your self, right? you can learn from it, deal with it. I am not sure if all inner critique can do this. I think this quality can’t. So i want to mention this before we put this phenomena in a box where it is not helpful in.